Mourning and Loss

The loss of a loved person is an unavoidable fact in our lives. This fact is the greatest loss someone can have but the experience differs from person to person. It depends on the temperament, personal convictions, the sort of relationship to the deceased and the cause of the loss. Some people are more introverted and “sink” into their emotions, while others choose to share the pain of the loss with their intimates. Of course there is no right or wrong way of handling this situation, each one of us knows better than any other how we feel and in which way we will experience mourning. Some choose loneliness, others socialization. In addition, a person under mourning may constantly make different kinds of thoughts in order to justify the tragic fact and find relief. Some thoughts can be calming (e.g. “At least he had a good life”) or gloomy (“His time shouldn’t have come so early”). It has been also observed that people often tend to blame themselves (“It was my fault”) or on the contrary try to justify-exonerate themselves (“I did everything for him while he was alive”). There is a wide range of reactions and emotions concerning mourning regardless a person’s intellectual or financial state. We ought to take as much time as it needs in order to overcome this difficult situation and take good care of ourselves.